Explosive reflections of our emotional make up intricacy, love relationships are the complex dynamics in which we attempt to find ourselves. Love relationships are the platform, the outlet of our soul evolution.
Love Relationships of Our Soul
Delightful, challenging, desired, feared, they trigger all our unresolved issues. Each time we incarnate, we make sure to put down on our soul agreements list, to meet with this or that special person that will push our buttons and force us to put ourselves in question through our love relationships.
The first thing that happens in our love relationships is a transfer phenomenon. The person we “fall in love” with, unconsciously becomes the nurturer, the unconditional love provider, the universal mother/father one always feels deprived of. Ever since our exit from Source, we desperately try to find the pure love we feel severed from, and our love relationships are the perfect playground for the “dream of love” quest. The dream of love is a transposition of our Source in the illusionary field of 3-dimensional reality, where we play shadow game with a ghost that has a form but no substance, as long as it’s not connected to its origin.
Falling in love is often a pit for lingering needs that are deeply buried and unconscious, and will definitely drill holes in any of our love relationships. We expect our needs to be met, we expect the other person to give us exactly what we want or feel entitled to; and we expect to be given what we want without having to ask for it! Like if entering a relationship is part of an obscure agreement that is supposed to be known by the parties. One can feel very righteous about it, and resent or incriminate a partner in virulent manners, not realizing the inner drama that is playing out in these love relationships.
The Reflection Within Love Relationships
The “loved one” becomes the reflection of the complex tapestry of wounds and deprivations one is holding in, resulting in expectations that are irrational and tortuous. A person projecting their wounds onto their love partner feels of course very justified to blame and resent, creating a distortion of reality that becomes a parallel world, into which one becomes entrapped. A loop will form between two people in these dysfunctional love relationships who will live in their own alienated bubble, reacting to each other, without being able to achieve what is really wanted: true love.
Like in all the fields of our life, the main problem that lies underneath our love issues is of course, the mishmash of our patterns, distorting our consciousness and disabling the flow of true love and clarity. This intricate and tortuous inner twister, stuck in the claws of our unconscious, alters all situations. It will create a theatrical drama, triggering even more suffering. Activated by the swirl of a relationship, the inner twister will compound old wounds, adding new scars to them.
Responsibility of Love Relationships
By falling in love, one unconsciously delegates the responsibility of love to the loved one, expecting the special one to provide this vital fuel that we all starve for. It is a subjacent contract that is passed between two “love” protagonists, and will create all kinds of difficult emotions, one more irrational than the other. The “love package” is all tied up in our societal ritual of marriage, where one is promising the other to love them against all odds, until death and beyond! What a responsibility! What a transfer!
How about, I will love you as much and as long as you love yourself! I will be a vivid reflection of your own connection with the very Source of love. How about, I will support you to respond to your own love, and together, we’ll share that precious and abundant elixir that, without constraints, will vivify and charm us forever!
In our love relationships, as well as in everything else in our life, we look outside of ourselves to find what we need, what we want. Love is an inside job and nobody can enslave another with its gift. In order to live a magnificent “love story” one has to work, one has to take responsibility to find Self and the true Source of love. Then its unconditional flow will bless our lives with the manifestation of a 3-dimensional, “real” partner who shares the same capacity in the ideal of love relationships.
Wired to the same source, these partners would come together, and spark up some impressive fireworks! Instead of navigating through a sea of programs to find a few glimpses of light, living a co-dependent love tangled in expectations, these two individuals would be basking in the abundant and unrestricted flow of pure love, in the ideal manifestation of their love relationships!